Do you spend most of your time working? Are you feeling too drained to go out there and date? Finding the right balance between your career and your personal life can be difficult.
But luckily, we are here to help. Today, we will be talking about some tips that can help you get back in the game no matter how busy you are.
You Have to Shift Your Mindset
If you’re a go-getter, it’s tempting to treat your dating life like just another thing you have to check off your list. But it’s so much more than that.
We need connection to thrive, and the truth is, we are all pretty unpredictable (as well as our connections). You may be going through a drought period, and if that’s the case, you might just need a little time to feel like you want to get back out there.
Also, love is an experience that we as people are lucky to have a chance to go through (no matter how hard it can get). Switch your mindset from achieving to experiencing, and just being in the moment. That alone can do wonders for your love life.
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A coffee date shouldn’t feel like a burden, even though you’re busy. It could be the highlight of your week, so try to give it the benefit of the doubt.
Go for Quality Over Quantity
The truth is, you don’t have to go on a hundred dates and break your back in order to find that special someone. You just have to be more intentional with who you date.
Dating only people you think are relationship material will save you time. Of course, you have to get to know someone before you know if you’ll be a good match, but set your standards and stick to them.
If you want to use dating apps or events, know exactly what you’re looking for. Having a good plan won’t only help you in business, it can help you find someone too.
Make the Time
We can give you a million tips today, but the truth is, it’s up to you to make the time if you really want to do it. We know you’re busy. We know you’re tired. But if this is something you really want, you’ll find that extra hour or two.
You can start slowly. There is no need to become a serial dater. Just consider going out for one drink with that guy who keeps asking you out. It might be worth your while.
Try Finding Love Online
We know. Dating apps and online ads can feel depressing. But plenty of people have had success with them. And are you really trying if you don’t give them a chance?
Here, it’s important to know exactly what you’re looking for, because different apps and platforms attract different kinds of people. When you’re creating your profile or ad, make sure it feels like you. Try to look good, but don’t be inauthentic. You want to meet someone who really wants to get to know you, so you want to be more upfront about your lifestyle.
Many apps have a location filter that can help you focus on people near you. There are even platforms that will help you find love in your area. Feeling ready to give it a try? Hop on over to Locanto’s personals category and see who is waiting for you.
Put Your Skills to Good Use
If you’re a busy professional, you might be great at planning and time management, and you might have some amazing communication skills. As much as your schedule is making it impossible to date, these qualities are something you can use when you decide to get yourself back out there.
First of all, you can set realistic expectations for your potential dates. The next time you’re planning out your week in your Google Calendar, don’t forget to add your date.
Also, communicate openly if you get stuck at work or things get busy. Not everyone will understand, but the right person will. Don’t waste your time on someone who can’t understand your needs. Plus, we’d hate for someone to think you’re making up excuses and aren’t really interested in seeing them. So, just sending a quick text can go a long way.
Make Dating Work With Your Lifestyle
Your schedule might be full, but maybe you can invite someone to go with you to things you’ve already got planned. Attending an event at work or a gallery opening? Bring someone who could enjoy something like that. Trying out a new café on your one-hour lunch break? Invite someone to meet you there.
Think of it as sharing your world with people. It will help your love life flow with your life, not disrupt it.
Focus on Finding Someone Who Gets It
If you don’t want to change your life and want to find someone who complements it, that’s exactly what you should look for. Not everyone will understand your lifestyle, but not everyone needs to.
You may even want someone who’s a hustler like you. If you date people who share your values, they will get it and know it’s not personal. They’ll respect your hustle and celebrate your wins with you.
Building your career isn’t easy, but having someone who understands you by your side can make it easier. And finding that kind of connection? It’s worth the wait and the trouble to get there.
Be Honest (With Yourself and Others)
Honesty is always important. First of all, you have to be honest with yourself. Can’t make that date? Okay, then You’re out there building an empire, and you can’t be in a million places at once. Just don’t make cancelling dates a habit. You do have to go out of your comfort zone if you actually want to change something about your life.
And it’s important to be honest with others, too. Don’t pretend you have loads of free time if you don’t. The right person will appreciate your transparency. If someone really likes you, they’ll understand. Plus, this can help you weed out the ones that are truly interested in getting to know you.
Let Go of the Pressure
We all feel a constant pressure to fit in. To have a ‘normal’ life. You might feel pressure to find someone fast or to force a connection just because you don’t feel like you have the time to build it.
But it’s important to let love grow naturally. Some relationships need time, especially if you’re both busy. So just don’t force it, and don’t panic. You’ll find someone.
Love takes time to find and grow. And it will be even stronger if you don’t push it into being something it’s not meant to be.
Ready to Give It Your Best Shot?
We know how hard it is to find the balance between your professional and love life. It’s one bumpy ride, but it’s worth it.
You just have to put your interests, time and values at the heart of your dating goals and let things develop naturally. Plan out your dates and be honest if you can’t make it to something. The right person will understand.
